Tag: gay

  • Women’s boundaries and male exclusion

    Women’s boundaries and male exclusion

    I am glad my friends set boundaries and excluded me, because it taught me a valuable lesson: women have the right to say no.

  • Sarah Mary Chadwick’s “Full Mood” is a hauntingly beautiful love song for our time

    Sarah Mary Chadwick’s “Full Mood” is a hauntingly beautiful love song for our time

    “Full Mood” didn’t remind me of any one man I dated. It reminded me of many.

  • How Modern Family changed American television

    How Modern Family changed American television

    When Modern Family won the 2010 Emmy for Outstanding Comedy Series, I was livid. A derivative show which mashed the mocumentary-style of The Office up with the formulaic family sitcom (a la Everybody Loves Raymond), I couldn’t see how it could it could possibly rank as more “outstanding” than Glee, another nominee in its first […]

  • Requiem for Pete Buttigieg

    Requiem for Pete Buttigieg

    “Being open about my sexual orientation at school – and the hell that goes along with it – is not only the right thing to do, but the only thing to do.” I wrote those words in my diary in 2003. I was running for student body president as the only openly gay student in […]

  • On Phillip Schofield and remembering my own coming out

    On Phillip Schofield and remembering my own coming out

      In a very moving statement released on Twitter this morning, and in an equally moving segment on This Morning, Phillip Schofield came out as gay. Married for 27 years to his wife Stephanie, they have two daughters. By Schofield’s own account his wife and children have been nothing but supportive. This can’t have been […]

  • My Dale Peck Problem

    I’ve had a few days to reflect on Dale Peck’s infamous piece for The New Republic. Bowing to pressure, the website deleted the article, but the internet is forever and you can read it here. Peck spends a full third of the piece speculating on Pete Buttigieg’s sexual role and says, in short, he is […]

  • An open letter to Trump voters, from a gay American

    Dear friends who voted for that vile man*, I am angry, and I hate you. It would be disingenuous for me to say anything else. The other night I said I hope you die. I meant it. I’m not sure I do now, but at the time I did. I hate you for voting for […]

  • 30 Things I’ve Learned at 30

      In many ways, turning 30 is less of an existential crisis than was turning 25. I turned 25 crying on the floor of a fraternity house bathroom. I turn 30 with health insurance, a budding writing career, and a guy who makes me smile every day. Things are good. Sure, there are a lot […]

  • #ThatAwkwardMoment when you get your big break, then leave the country

    Dreams do come true. In case you missed it, I published my first piece at The Advocate last week. When I was in high school, I used to sneak and read it at Barnes and Noble every time I visited my parents in Ohio. Never in a million years did I think I would have […]

  • On Rose McGowan, gay male misogyny, and why intersectionality matters

    Intersectionality. Louise Mensch thinks it’s bullshit. Caroline Criado-Perez thinks it’s bullying. Rose McGowan thinks it’s, well, we don’t know what Rose McGowan thinks it is. But her recent comments about gay men being “more sexist” than straight men, which she subsequently apologized for, demonstrate that she may not be an intersectional feminist herself. I don’t […]